Category Archives: Advice

Am I qualified to give advice? No matter, sometimes I give it anyway!

Advice – the good, the bad, and the ugly

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Tis the season for “year in review” and “new year, new me” blog posts and status updates.  Some are cute, some are poignant, some are downright annoying (fact- NO ONE cares about your workout routines or fad diet).   But, the end of the year does seem to make everyone a little introspective, including me. Don’t worry- I’m not going to bust out another Year… Read more »

Peace on Earth?

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What do you want for Christmas (if you celebrate)? Some people answer that question with a specific item or items. Some people answer they want their family together, happy and healthy.  Some people even bust out the old beauty queen cliche of world peace. Lately that lofty goal of world peace seems further away than ever- we can’t even have… Read more »

Back Seat Santa

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Last year I wrote about a troubling trend I’ve noticed- the notion that Christmas is just for kids.  It still really bothers me that anyone could feel that way- please see here to recall why: http://www.beckypalmer.me/christmas-is-for-who/ But today I’m going to put out an even more radical holiday thought- I invite you to reimagine Santa Claus. Before you come at me… Read more »

Just Do Something

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Lately there have been quite a few people in my extended family who have been struck with life threatening medical emergencies.  One was in a terrible car accident.  One fell off a ladder.  Another has a 5 month old daughter with cancer. I have other people in my sphere dealing with horrible family problems.  Whether the underlying issues are money,… Read more »

No Free Passes?

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A good friend is going through a difficult time right now dealing with a toxic family member.   I will not be sharing any identifying details, but there has been a life long pattern of narcissistic and downright awful behavior from this family member and there has been a recent chain of events that have really brought this behavior front and… Read more »

Mysteries of Womanhood

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No, I’m not referring to “mysteries” like why women want control of their own bodies or the sad, sad questions men who apparently skipped middle school science post on social media about the female menstrual cycle.  I’m not asking why women’s clothing gets destroyed the dryer but men’s clothing does not (although if you have the answer to that please… Read more »

It’s Not Perfect

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“Everything has to be perfect!” How often have we heard that?  How much stress has that statement caused?  And, most importantly, how often was the situation it was used in really that important? Sure, there are times when things need to be perfect, or darn close.  Scientific experiments.  Construction of nuclear reactors.  Space launches.  Administration of chemotherapy.   Yet, most of… Read more »

No Excuses

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Our local embarrassment, Congressman Steve King of Iowa’s 4th District, was at it again this week.  Apparently admitting he’s a white nationalist, being openly mysogynistic, and just being all over ignorant wasn’t enough.  Apparently being so generally repulsive that his own party has barred him from serving on any committees or positions of leadership wasn’t enough. Nope.  This past week,… Read more »